Happy New Week

happy-new-week-inspirational-quotesThey say to truly know a people; you have to know their proverbs. Here are some really inspiring Chinese proverbs.

  • To buy a quarrel, lend money to a friend
  • The harder you fall, the higher you bounce.
  • One who gains mastery will create his own opportunities
  • Frugality is the mother of prosperity
  • A goal without a deadline is only a wish. A dream with a deadline becomes a goal.
  • When you want to test the depth of a stream, do not use both feet.
  • You cannot propel yourself forward by patting yourself on the back.
  • A wise man makes his own decisions; an ignorant man follows public opinions.
  • Cheap things are good but good things are not good.
  • The day your horse dies and your money’s lost, your relatives change to strangers.

Can you relate to these few proverbs, irrespective of the fact that they are Chinese?

@Cisi_Uduh

Memoirs of a Gay Teenage Virgin (entry four)

memoirsRead entry three here.


One of the biggest problems I’ve faced as a gay teen is loneliness. Every human being is born with the need to belong, to fit in, to be accepted, to have a group he can identity with. While I’m fully aware of the fact that I’m surrounded by people who love me, I still feel misunderstood, the need to hide, the silence cripples me, sometimes I just want to say to my family “you know what I’m gay” I hate having to lie, I hate facing the problems I face and not being able to talk about them with anyone.

So far there are three people who are aware of my sexual orientation who I have a physical relationship with, two are straight the other like me, is gay. The closest I ever come to feeling totally free and comfortable is when I’m with my gay friend, it’s a Continue reading

Musings of a Broke Ajebo (entry three)

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Read entry two here.


Sunday Sister

July 26, 2015…

The Soul mate Concept.

Do you think that the concept of having a soulmate is true? That out there, there is a person who will come into your life and you two would just “click”? You two might end up getting married and living happily-ever-after because you two were destined for each other.

If you’re one of those people that believe there are different types of soulmates, i.e. a soulmate which you connect with on an intellectual level, another soulmate who rhymes with you on a sexual level, e.t.c, here is the definition I got from Wikipedia: Continue reading

Memoirs of a Gay Teenage Virgin (entry three)

memoirsRead entry two here.


Before I realized and accepted i was gay, I was quite homophobic. I remember when I was little, around 9 or 10 we had this gate-man, his name was Sule.
Sule, as well as being our gate-man, used to help us with little chores around the house, like fetching water from the well outside, and cutting grass…generally he did the menial jobs everyone else was too lazy to do. I don’t think he liked that so much, anytime he fetched water for us, I’d see blobs of spit floating atop the buckets of water, I tried to tell everyone else, but they never believed me, I guess I’d cried wolf too many times, besides everyone else loved him, my little brother who was around 5 or 6 around that time used to sneak into his house to eat with him, he could eat anything…still can.

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Musings of a Broke Ajebo (entry two)

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Dogs have Bitches

About a year ago, a friend came crying to me and asked a very important question, “Why do men cheat?” I was tempted to reply, “They cheat because they are rats.” It would have been a logical answer even though it would have sounded illogical. I came across a quote: it is better to be without a man and have peace of mind than to be with one and lose your peace and happiness.

Young ladies nowadays don’t even make it easier. When they know a man is married, they still go ahead and have a sizzling chemical romance with him. They seem to forget that what goes around Continue reading

Memoirs of a Gay Teenage Virgin (entry two)

memoirsRead entry one here.


I really don’t understand the logic behind people thinking that it’s a choice to be gay, if it was, that would mean that gay people are all Masochists who derive pleasure from the worst form of pain; unrequited love (I’m probably exaggerating, but sometimes, it does seem like it is doesn’t it?).
The worst thing I’ve had to deal with as a gay man (I’m 18! *smirks) is the loneliness. being quite macho, I really can’t remember any time I’ve been a victim of bullying(yay for me!). But wanting someone and not being able to have him – not even being able to express the depth of what you feel for him… it feels like hell.

What I felt for Joshua was nothing compared to the way I felt for Tobe. I first noticed him in my second year in senior secondary school, the thing that caught my attention about him was how cute and innocent he looked. When he walked into my class, he had this scared look on his face and he kept fidgeting, it was his first day in senior secondary school and I totally understood his Continue reading

Memoirs of a Gay Teenage Virgin (entry one)

I first realized I was gay in my third year in secondary school, I had just started at a new school due to a certain illness I suffered at that time which led to me having to be withdrawn from my old school which was a boarding school to become a day student at a new school.

I was devastated. Having never been the social type, I was dreading the idea of having to start afresh at a new school, the idea of having to meet with new people terrified me, plus, I missed my Continue reading

Musings of a Broke Ajebo (entry one)

PLEASE IF YOU ARE CLOSE-MINDED DON’T READ THIS. JUST SKIP THIS POST. I TAKE GOD BEG YOU. THIS IS NOT FOR CLOSE-MINDED PEOPLE. IT IS MEANT FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE INTELLIGENT ENOUGH TO THINK FOR THEMSELVES IRRESPECTIVE OF WHAT SOCIETY SAYS. SEE? I HAD TO WRITE IT BOLDLY. IF YOU ARE CLOSE-MINDED, BYE. PLEASE, DON’T READ FOR THE SAKE OF WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN TOLD TO BELIEVE. BUT IF YOU MUST READ, BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.


Sunday Sister

We Are All Going To Hell.

June 28, 2015...

I’m “spiritually adventurous.” I have read the Holy Qur’an, the sacred book of Buddhism-Tipitaka, a little of the BhagavadGita, and the Holy Bible. I have even dabbled a little into the occult. (When you say occult people think of the Devil). One thing all these books teach is LOVE. Do unto others what you want them to do to you. (Do you love your neighbour? Do you sincerely wish him/her well? Jesus said, “Love God and love your neighbour.” But that is not what I want to write about today).

When people ask what church I attend, I tell them, “my parents are Catholics.” I didn’t choose to be a Christian. I found “them” practicing Catholicism and just like that, they involved me. If I were born in China, I would have been a Buddhist. Continue reading

Imagine Nigeria Without Writers

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This year, I read opinion pieces and articles on Nigeria’s newspapers and blogs than I had read in years. From Elnathan John’s weekly humorous, but reflective satirical pieces to Tolu Ogunlesi’s deep, and debate provoking articles. I read pieces from Nigerians who learned to write, effectively, out of strong interior need to say something relevant. These articles flooded the newspapers- hard and soft copies- and while some of the writers were angry, others guided their humane, not losing their sense of humor in the process of reflecting on the conditions of the country. Regardless, however, they all have proven that Nigerians are conscious of their challenges, and are ready to keep strewing words together until we get it straight in the country. Continue reading

The Dress Code

Gruppe von GeschäftsleutenIt is laughable, yet annoying, when people mistake
going about their everyday life with going for an
event. Not any event: a tacky, trashy event.

They wear fashion items and accessories that they
shouldn’t. Some ladies wear heels that they are not
comfortable in, clothes that are for the Red Carpet,
and they even go on to apply vulgar make-up that Continue reading